As adults I see over and over again people complaining or otherwise stating how they don’t have any friends. I also see the question “how do I make friends ?”, or some variation of it on a regular basis. So today, with the help of Wonderopolis, we’re just going to break down what makes a good friend. Why ? Because the better friend you are, the better friend you will attract and keep. Yeah, that’s the law of attraction baby.
How Many Friends Do You Have ?
Let’s start with us (me and you, the humans reading this) each taking a mental note of how many friends we have. No need to think super, extra deep. Just yank a loose number out of your noggin. You may have more friends than you realize. Maybe less. Maybe you’re starting to wonder if you should separate ‘friends’ from ‘best friends’ or ‘associates’. Honestly, endless questions can come of this.
Now What’s A Good Friend ?
Now from your initial friends list. Think about how many of them you would consider ‘good’ friends. Now the word ‘good’ is extremely subjective so just go ahead and use your discernment. With this, some questions may arise such as, “are good good friends and best friends the same?”, or “does this include close friends?” Just think about quality friends. Not people you sort of just hit up when you’re bored.
Now start thinking about the qualities these people possess and how much you like being around them. You will probably notice things like how present said people are in your life. People you consider good friends are there when you really crave substance. A good friend consoles you while you grieve, they offer to provide for you while you’re incredibly ill and they’re next to you celebrating when amazing things happen in your life.
Good friends are usually excellent listeners and they take time to notice details about you and your life. They are considerate of your time and your feelings. Good friends usually aren’t ‘yes men’ because they truly want the best for you. Good friends are LOYAL. Being loyal means they accept you for exactly who you are. The good, the bad and the ugly all in one and they don’t treat you drastically different during each phase.
When a good friend tells you what you need to hear, whether you want to or not, they do so with love and tact. You will be able to tell that their goal is to reach your heart and not to attack your spirit with their words. These are all things that will help you feel comfortable trusting them. You can trust them with your life, your secrets, your belongings. Anything. Without trust. You have nothing. Mutual trust is literally the only safe and stable foundation available for long-lasting, healthy friendships.
How many of these qualities do you possess ? Which ones are more important to you ? Let’s talk about it !